Thursday, 28 July 2016

Marriage not a bed of roses ~ Yemisi Suswam

Wife of the immediate past governor of Benue State, Gabriel Suswam, Yemisi, has opened up on her alleged marriage break-up.

The former first lady, who has been married for about 18 years, dished out pieces of advice to young couples who want to leave their marriages due to one reason or the other, pointing out that all marriages go through their ups and down.

The renowned architect opened up to City People on the allegations of crisis in her marriage.

Recall that news made the rounds some time ago that the couple were said to have been having irreconcilable differences in their marriage and Yemisi was alleged to have sued for divorce in a London court.

But reacting to the allegation, Yemisi said, “Unfortunately we didn’t know or read about it because we were in United State of America with all the family. But our son who is 14years old woke us up that hot afternoon saying Daddy, Mummy come and see what is happening.

“My husband was fresh out of Government and we were just chilling out trying to get ourselves and bond together as a family and thank God for our lives. He told us there was something terrible going on about us on the social media and we were faraway in US when they said we were in London.

“We didn’t know where the story came from that we were in London when we were in United States. We were not even with our phone as it was switched off, so no family member could reach us but it is one of those things,” she quipped.

“It is only God that has sustained our marriage for 18years as there is nothing special that I do except from calling on my God in times of trouble. He has promised that whoever calls upon him in the days of trouble, he will save. He is a faithful God; you just have to believe in him.”

Speaking on the ‘most dreaded’ thing she heard out there that shocked her about her marriage,Yemisi said, “Well, when you marry in a place where they don’t know your background and they don’t know you so well. You don’t have brothers or sisters there, there is bound to be suspicions, speculation and all that.

“Nothing shocks me again, the worst rumour I have heard is about my life and it was early in the marriage. So whatever rumour that goes around, we know that it will never see the light of the day.”

Speaking further, she disclosed that her meeting with her husband was not love at first sight.

She said, “Who says I don’t have sexy eye ball too? It was not love at first sight. We were friends before we became lovers. We understood the feelings of each other which led us into an intimate friendship. He later proposed.

“For the young ones going through challenges in their marriage, I want to say that patience goes a very long way. They also need prayer. It is not by power or might to make marriages work. If you park up your marriage, do you want to remain alone for the rest of your life? Probably no.

“The next person you may meet may be worse than the one you want to leave. So if marriage is worth the while at all, it is worth keeping. I employ them in the name of God to be patient and persevere. Marriage is not a bed of roses. If you are a professional and while practicing your profession, things are not going well, will you leave your profession?

“You will endure and wait till the storm is over, surely after your storm, there is Life. So they should not forget that whatever they are going through, there is light after the tunnel,” she added.

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